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Living With Menopause

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    Do you feel like you are going crazy when you start menopause?
    What are some of the thing that help with menopause. My test came back that I was in menopause. And oh boy do I have anger and crying and feelings of going crazy. I also have anxiety disorder. Any advice?

    • ANSWER:
      Just live your life as normal but extra sleep or naps in the afternoon it takes away anxiety and anger. Think of the joy you will feel never having your monthly tormentor again :-)

  2. QUESTION:
    What does women in her menopause stage need to eat to stay healthy?
    Does anyone know what supplements or special cares are needed for women in her menopause stage? Such as taking omega 3 or something...
    P.S.: I'm in my early 20s and I am not going throught menopause. I'm doing this as a research for one of my class.

    • ANSWER:
      The following articles may be helpful:

      http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/menopaus1/a/nutritionmeno.htm
      http://life.familyeducation.com/nutrition-and-diet/health/44298.html
      http://www.estroven.com/info/wellness_care/nutrition
      http://health.yahoo.com/experts/weightkoch/1504/nutrition-and-menopause/

      I AM going through menopause, as I'm 47. One of the most important things a menopausal woman can do? Cut back her calories dramatically and focus on healthy eating. Horrible advice, when you've lived almost 50 years you'd think you'd be allowed to eat all the chocolate you want.

  3. QUESTION:
    Do you feel healthier once perimenopause is over and menopause is complete?
    Or is it even worse after menopause? (As far as mood swings, body aches, energy levels, anger at people). Thanks!

    • ANSWER:
      It's great! No mood swings, health good. Only left over problem is that I now live at a higher temperature than I did before - so I don't feel cold in winter! Get plenty of exercise, to ensure bones stay strong.

  4. QUESTION:
    Why do some women go through such a drastic change during and after menopause while others experience very?
    little change? Some women turn into completely different people post menopause, diffent voice, different personality, while others keep their voice and don't experience much change at all.
    Does smoking, drinking, and caffeine consumtion have anything to do with it?

    • ANSWER:
      It depends upon how harmonious their psychological spectrum is. Females are not supposed to suffer so in a well balanced world.... When they feel they live in that world, all this pain will go away.

  5. QUESTION:
    What are some alternative ways to treat menopause symptoms without using any hormone replacements?
    I really do not want to use any HRT therapy, even bio-identicals. Can you recommend a type of Dr. to see that can treat menopause symptoms without a prescription of some type?

    • ANSWER:
      I was told years ago by a dental hygenist that when hot flashes and mood swings begin to up the intake of calcium. This I have done for nearly 10 years. What a difference this has made! I breezed through menopause. It really works for me. So, I tell all women about it. With calcium, you want to be sure you are getting a 2:1 ratio of calcium to magnesium. Be sure if you are taking at least 1200 mg of calcium a day, that you get at LEAST 400 mg magnesium. The very best form of magnesium is magnesium glycinate with the Albion chealate process. Unfortunately, this is not found in every store and for sure it is not found combined in calcium supplements. I got mine on line. A good calcium supplement is better than none though. You also want to be sure you are getting enough Vit.D and Vit.D3 is the best form of that. Vit D helps the body absorb calcium as does magnesium. You can get the best VitD from the sun. 15-20 minutes a day is usually sufficient. Those who live in mid-northern states probably do not get enough sun in the winter, which means we have to supplement. Calcium is always in combination with magnesium, so one has to add a tablet of the gylcinate form of magnesium to reach the correct daily ratio. Women in this stage of life need 1500 mg of calcium, 400-700 mg of magnesium and 800-1000 units VitD3. Try this and see if you notice some changes within a week or so. If you notice some loose stools gradually add the magnesium. Many women I know also use wild yam extract cream which is a natural product women have been using for centuries without problems. Try the calcium trick first. If it doesn't work then add the cream. All one usually needs of this is 1/4 tsp once or twice a day rubbed on the thin areas of the skin. Directions where, are found on all containers of wild yam cream. Another thing I have found that works for me is a product found here: www.stemcellfacts.info I would try these first before looking for a naturopathic doctor or a holistic doctor. I do consult these doctors once in a while for other matters, but I have had no problem with menopause once I added the calcium program. When you get everything in balance, IF you should have a hot flash again, look to adding a bit more calcium for a day or two. Good luck! Let us now here how it is working for you.

  6. QUESTION:
    What would happen if women never had menopause and stayed fertile their whole life like men?
    I think it is not fear that a man most of the time lives less than women and women stop reproducing and still live longer.I guess their skin will still age like men.

    • ANSWER:
      Women would be truly liberated. Menopause is an unpleasant experience which blights latter life quality. They would feel healthier without hypogonadism and research to prevent menopause is long overdue.
      Personally the best option at present is to take hormones for life once estrogen levels start to decline.

  7. QUESTION:
    When do cats hit menopause, and what are the symptoms?
    My cat has never been fixed under advisement from our vet due to a complicated medical condition. (Please don't waste your time telling me to spay her.)
    She's older now and I'm noticing changes in her cycle. I'm suspicious "the changes" are upon her. Anyone who has lived with a cat in this phase of their life, I would love to hear abut your experiences.
    Incase this makes a difference - she has never had a litter.

    • ANSWER:
      Unlike humans, female cats do not have a menopause and remain fertile throughout their lives if they haven't been spayed.

      You don't mention how old your cat is, but it's worth taking her to the vet for a check-up, as these "changes" could be signs of a hormone imbalance or a health problem.

      Good luck

  8. QUESTION:
    Why do infertile post menopause women live longer than fertile men isn't that contradictory to evaluation?
    Men are fertile all their lives but women are not.Once you can't reproduce you are useless to evaluation because you can't pass on your species.Reproducing increases our survival from going extinct.Men in their 90s can make babies but women can't.The majority of the worlds oldest people are women and women's life expectancy is 2-5 years more than men in a lot of country.What is the point of living longer if you can't pass on your species?

    • ANSWER:
      not necessarily, remember that in ancient history our life expectancy would have been vary low, probably 20's to 30's not long enough for menopause to present it self. basically if your spending energy on unlimited fertility (like males) and you only live to the age of 40, you will have to consume more energy than someone who is only producing till a specific age.

      and just because you can point to an example where one creature has a better set of traits compared to another, doesn't mean there is something wrong with evolution, traits arise randomly and are filtered within populations, just because one creature receives a trait doesn't mean every other creature will also at some point receive a similar trait. evolution works with what it currently has, not what it could have in the future..

  9. QUESTION:
    menopause question were you prescribed anti depressants during the menopause?
    were you depressed? or was it just a case that depression is a symptom of the menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      There are as many symptoms or ramifications of menopause as there are for periods, none of which are good and of which depression is but one. Others include chronic insomnia, hot flushes, hair loss, vaginal dryness, amorphia (extreme skin itchiness because you feel like you've got ants crawling all over you), memory retention problems, panic attacks, severe mood swings and extreme anger/agression, etc. etc.

      I deeply envy those fortunate women who breeze through menopause without a single problem.

      Many women do suffer from severe depression during menopause and there's certainly nothing wrong with properly prescribed anti-depressants to get you through the worst. The problem with these though is that they can literally become a habit that you simply can't live without, even when menopause if over (they don't call them "happy pills" for nothing!).

      Instead of anti-depressants, HRT (hormone replacement therapy) is worth serious consideration (unless of course you are simply not able to take this because of breast cancer, etc.).

      Is there any reason why you don't take HRT? Have you talked to your doctor about this, and in particular, canvassed with him or her the possible benefits to you of HRT? A lot of doctors (particularly males ... funny thing that!) simply don't believe or really accept that menopause symptoms can be so severe and debilitating that they take over your life and make you crazy (after all, having even only a couple of the symptoms listed above is enough to make you chronically depressed!). Hence, many don't believe in the value of HRT and won't prescribe it. They also tend to give you lots of scary statistics about increased risks of breast/cervical cancer, heart attack, stroke, etc. to put you off wanting it.

      Whilst it's true that taking HRT does VERY SLIGHTLY increase these types of risks, the value you may get from it in terms of getting the quality of your life back can make it very worthwhile despite the risks.

      How do I know all this? Because I've been there and done that (and I mean every single one of those nasty symptoms listed above - yes, I had all of them!). HRT gave me back my life and continues to do so because I'm still on it. I even went off it once last year but within a week, all the symptoms started to return, so I very quickly went back to my doctor and told her I just had to have it back. She agreed - thank God!

      If HRT interests you, do some research before you visit your doctor to discuss it so that you can present a truly informed front to him/her. If you don't get a sympathetic hearing, find yourself another doctor.

      The bottom line here is that for 98% of women, there is absolutely no reason these days why they should have to suffer through menopause when there are therapies out there to help.

      Whatever you do, hope it works well for you.

  10. QUESTION:
    Does anyone know of a good support group for young women going through surgical menopause?
    I am 29 and underwent a complete hysterectomy last december i have no ovaries or anything left. I am truly suffering with extreme severe hot flashes constantly and sweating alot as well. I would like to talk to others like myself who are young and experiencing severe menopause symptoms caused by surgical menopause.
    I live in a very small town. We have no groups like that here. I was wanting to meet other women online to discuss this problem. People who are going through this as well.

    • ANSWER:
      I can relate to your situation. I had a complete hysterectomy also when I was 27 and also live in a small town.There is just no support groups out there for young women like us! I can give you some advice on certain things.First of all you need some Hormone Replacement Treatment for those Hot Flashes and Mood Swings,Second you need to give yourself time to heel,it takes usually around a year for your body to get back to normal,so don't rush things.One more thing (Always Remember...Your Still Are and Always will be A Complete Woman) Please feel free to contact me anytime!! I do know what you are going through.

  11. QUESTION:
    What age is normal for the menopause?
    I am 20 and I thought menopause occurred in your late 40s but then I became confused when watching Im a celeb last night. Apparently Gillian Mckeith - 51 - still has periods. Is this possible and did anyone else think it was strange?

    • ANSWER:
      Menopause normally begins in the late 40's through the early 50's. But menopause can also start in your 20's and 30's, in which case it is called premature menopause. Premature menopause can be triggered by many things including living at high altitudes and smoking.

  12. QUESTION:
    can the menopause be helped by good living alone?
    I was wondering if eating well and exercise also relaxation can help menopause symptoms. My friend seems to have started the menopause and she is one of those persons who avoid taking anything but she is a little cranky etc and I should like to help her. Can anyone give me some tips via the fruit and veg and exercise route please. I don't think she will even go for supplemented vitamins. Many thanks.

    • ANSWER:
      hi
      its like with anything good living can help but but from what ive read most woman need some type of hormone replacement therapy, ive enclosed a website to read up on this, nice to know she has a caring friend like you.
      http://www.amarantmenopausetrust.org.uk/faq.php

  13. QUESTION:
    Will my period be affected if my mom is going through menopause?
    My mom has started menopause a few months ago, and this month for me was really weird. I missed my period for like 2 weeks and when it came back, it was the worst pain I've ever had. Is this all because I'm around my mom and she's going through menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      Women living in close contact often have their periods at the same time. However your mother's menopause should not affect you adversely. If your discomfort continues, please see your doctor. Your experience is is most likely due to a little anxiety about your mother.

  14. QUESTION:
    Why only primates does have menopause and why females?
    And why females and why so young, really? for some of us life at 45+ is at peak and not ending... Human species are really miserably weak compared wild animals who can be fertile until the very end or old age.

    What is natural evolutionary purpose to this kind of early menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      I suspect it's simply a by-product of some other aspect of the reproductive system and there was never any pressure to correct it. In terms of evolutionary timescales, people rarely lived long enough for it to be a serious issue. The vast majority of children were born earlier and then the parents were busy raising the ones they had. Losing out on a few possible children at the end, didn't make much of a difference.

      It's important to remember that not everything needs to be beneficial. It's quite possible for non-adaptive traits to be passed on, by a variety of mechanisms. Genetic drift and population bottlenecks spring to mind as examples.

  15. QUESTION:
    How to encourage someone who is afraid of doctors to go to the doctor?
    My mother is 55, and I think she's going through menopause. At least, I hope that's what it is, because I don't know what else can cause these temper tantrums and hot flashes.

    The problem is that she will not go to the doctor. She has a fear of doctors...it's been years since she last went to the doctor.

    Is there anything I can say or do to get her in to the doctor before my father divorces her and the kids stop visiting? The temper tantrums are really bad!

    • ANSWER:
      i know how you feel, my mom had hot flashes, mood swings, etc. she got hers checked out and the doc prescribed the medication she (hell we all) needed!!
      tell her her family cares about her well being even though she has fear of the doc. tell her you all want her to live long and that she should want to live long.
      just pray and let God take care of it.
      good luck,
      momofb&d

  16. QUESTION:
    It is so hard living with a woman that gets depressed and has migraines. What to do?
    Ok, so maybe I don't listen as well as I could, or don't put away a piece of paper that should be thrown away. But is that cause for getting a mirgraine and threatening divorce? Could this be a sign of menopause and I just have to bear with it? Sure could use another lady friend to talk to because the one I love at home hates to be around me.

    • ANSWER:
      the way u wrote what u are feeling makes me think that u are not looking for a way to resolve the problem, but a justification to the way u are, an approval to things u do and a proof that it's not totally ur fault.
      i don't think that it is ur fault. i'm sure it's not. but that is not enough and will not solve ur problem. i don't think that a short answer or even if it will be as long as possible will be a great help.
      to my eyes what u both need is some support from the outside. a good consultant before it will be to hard to confront.
      i would love to be a friend to u and feel free to pm me :)
      to my eyes first step is to learn not to react to every word and every move even if from time to time it's really really hard.
      good luck

  17. QUESTION:
    What happens to a women after menopause?
    What happens to all your eggs? Do you still have eggs after menopause that just sit there? If so, would the eggs have a better chance of being fertilized and living if they put them in a younger women? What if people young or old freeze eggs, dose it make the eggs more fragile? I have been to shame to ask this question for a long time now, because i went through sex ed and still don't know lol. By the way am 17 and just wondering.

    • ANSWER:
      Menopause happens when all of your eggs are gone. So no, after menopause, there aren't any more eggs. And even before menopause, your eggs are old and fragile and you can't freeze them or do other things to them, because they're too delicate. When they do test tube baby stuff, they can only use the eggs of a younger woman (less than 42 or so) because even though average age of menopause is 51, the eggs get so fragile and weak when you are in your 40s that they just fall apart under the manipulations they go through to make test tube babies. Instead, for older women, they use eggs donated from a young woman, because young eggs are stronger and more durable.

  18. QUESTION:
    I am nearing menopause, how should I adjust my diet to minimize the effects of it?
    Also, what changes in my lifestyle will help in reducing the effects of menopause so that I can live a healthy life into my 50s, 60s, and after retirement?

    • ANSWER:
      If there was a way to minimize menopause effects through diet I guess most women would have preferred that on any HRT or other ways.

      I would say you need to adjust your diet no matter how old you are. The sugars, starches and fast food in general are the enemies of a healthy life style. What is called the Mediterranean diet i.e. lots of fish, vegetables, fruits, olive oil those should be the main ingredients on your table. You can look it up in Google or Yahoo. Then there is another very important thing and its exercise, even just walking 5 times a week for half or one hour is so very important. If you can go to exercise classes that would be great. Sleep 7 hours a night I think these are the main guidelines. But, if you think these steps will diminish or minimize menopause effects, that would be an illusion. Some women experience very harsh symptoms and take HRT and some can live with the symptoms, its very personal.

  19. QUESTION:
    What happens to your eggs and ovaries once you die?
    Someone here at work just told me that ovaries cannot be transplanted from one human being to another. Is this true only after you've died, or is it just impossible in general?

    Also, do you think it would be allowed to specify in a living will that you want to donate any of your viable eggs to women in need of them?

    Or how does any of that work?
    Thanks everyone! These are some great answers. I really appreciate the info.

    • ANSWER:
      My understanding is that they haven't perfected a reproductive organ transplant yet. I think there was one surgery that was named successful, but they don't really do it as a general rule.

      Eggs can't be donated because they aren't mature enough to donate. To donate your eggs, you have to take massive amounts of fertility drugs to promote ovulation and mature eggs - THEN the eggs can be donated.

      Chances are, when you die, you aren't taking those drugs. PLUS - if you die of old age, then you probably don't have any viable eggs left to donate - that's what menopause is all about.

      Good question!

  20. QUESTION:
    How long does it take for the pill to affect your acne?
    I had mild acne because of really bad water where I lived. Then I moved, used my regular stuff, and my acne went away.

    Then I started taking the pill. This is the second pill I've tried. I have the worst acne now I have ever had in my entire life. I am 26.

    I am half way through my third pack of pills. Is this not going to change? Should I find another pill or give this one another month or two. It is pretty horrible. I would almost rather just use condoms at this point.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi Limin, i hope this answers your question,
      A major factor in the appearance of acne is abnormal hormone levels, which usually occurs during puberty. For women the level of testosterone, known as the male hormone, rise during the menstrual cycle, that may lead to acne out breaks, due to the fact that the subcutaneous gland producing more oil at this time. Hormone levels can also alter during pregnancy and menopause, making acne out breaks common.

      When symptoms are noticeable medical care is recommended, in order to prevent scarring, that can last a life time, that can occur from chronic acne. Once a dermatologist has diagnosed the skin condition, an individual treatment series can begin. This can include lotions, cleansers, laser therapy, photodynamic therapy or acne pills.

      The acne pill is actually the birth control pill, but has been shown to be effective some times, to correct hormone levels. Everyone has both male and female hormones, excessive testosterone levels, the male hormone, as well as the androgens, cause the sebaceous glands to go into over production, leading to acne out breaks. The acne pill, which are synthetic forms of estrogen and progestin can help level out these hormone levels, and have been shown to stop the ovaries from producing excess testosterone, and reinstating normal male and female hormone levels.

      The effects of the acne pill will not be seen immediately after beginning this treatment, and in some cases acne can get worse before getting better. As soon as the acne pill starts to equate hormone levels out the benefits will be able to be seen. Some times one acne pill will not work, and actually cause more problems, so another acne pill needs to be tried. There are different types of acne pills for the different hormonal levels of different people.

      People who suffer from chronic acne need to understand that the acne pill is a temporary cure, and in most cases, when the medication is stopped the acne will return. In some cases the acne can be far more serious after the acne pill is not being taken.

  21. QUESTION:
    Are there any preventive measures to delay the onset of menopause at an early age?
    What are the psycho-bio causes that cause menopause at an early age?

    • ANSWER:
      My dear Geyamala....

      Ohhhhhhhh honey....you should "jump for joy" for the fact that you won't have to deal withe the monthk cycles baby...By all respect, nut the several people above were not medicallyy correct, because the amount of your eggs were given to you by birth...such being a hereticall aspect...and once your eggs in your ovaries are "used up"...there you enter menopaus honey...

      and by all means....follow "Mother Nature" and don't let no one tell you to but "such-and-such" product...it's all wasted money baby !

      i've done some reseqrch on the matter and here's what I came up with:

      http://www.medindia.net/news/Scientists-Have-Found-Way-to-Delay-Menopause-21940-1.htm
      http://www.womentowomen.com/menopause/faq.aspx

      Don't let some chemical stuff mess up your health honey and let ife take it's cause....For everry "season" is a reqson...and even life's cyclesare seasons we live through...acccept this new pleasant time of life...were you's free from all those "Cotex, tampax"-times and be happy baby !!! Life is much easier and enjoyable...so look forward to it...and don't take any of those stupid hormon pills the GYN wants to prescribe you....

      First of all 1/2 the time they don't work...and the side effects are too risky to the equivillance of comfort if any. I haven't taken and doing just fine for the past 7 years ...so don't worry my friend...All will be fine without interfering into the nature's plan is...---makes sense--- doesn't it ? and you're a wise and intelligent lady, so you will take my advice because you kow I care about you !

      Send you my best wishes for the "autume" pf your life....-smile- best time if you ask me....Greetings from Germany with all my care, concern and my unconditional LOVE....your friend...Annette***

  22. QUESTION:
    are doctors required to tell their patients if they are unable to prescribe narcotics?
    Unable to sleep due to menopause. Told my ob/gyn who told me to bring it up to my regular phycician. Asked physician for sleep medications and told he doesnt prescribe those. Found out later he is not allowed. Shouldn't his patients know?

    • ANSWER:
      He is not obligated to tell you, no.
      However, that's a very strong sign that you need to find another doc. This more or less means he was caught doing something shady with prescriptions, and that is effectively malpractice.

      Check out "doctor rating site" on a search engine. There should be one for your area unless you live in a very rural area. These allow you to browse docs and view the comments their patients have.

      Something like this: http://www.ratemds.com/

  23. QUESTION:
    At 49 I have stopped the combined pill. Why is Implanon the best contraception during menopause?
    Research on the side effects of Implanon - prolonged/irregular bleeding,weight gain, depression, dizziness, abdominal pain, etc., how will these interact with menopause. I have no idea how frequent/infrequent my natural bleeding/periods will be yet?. What method of contraception would you recommend during menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      Lol ! at Menopause you don't need any more contraception methods. You're better free now to live your sexual life as better as you like it.
      Perhaps you'll get some diseases some weight gain or some anxiety but you're good enough to overcome this by some natural remedies. Just go : http://menopauseandweight.com/sitemap.xml ,
      surf in different links there to know better about menopause and how to get better.

  24. QUESTION:
    What is your opinion on the woman having a baby at over 60?
    My personal opinion is she is going against nature. The menopause is for a reason. She isn't thinking about when the baby is 14, she will be 80 year old fo goodness sake.

    • ANSWER:
      I dont think its right

      My mother was 40 when she had me and i can remember being quite embarrassed as a teenager that she was so much older than my friends mums

      how is this child going to feel with a mother of 80 at age 14 apart from all the health issues and the fact that she may not live to see the child reach teenage years
      I think she is being irresponsible and very selfish

  25. QUESTION:
    How many teens die each year by suicide and why do teens attempt suicides?
    Teens have a hard life to live but why do teens go with suicide?

    Teens have school and stuff at home to work with, but what can we do
    stop teen suicide?

    What are we going to do?

    Are we going to come together as one to help teens?

    Are we going to leave teens to die and not care?

    What are we going to do?

    • ANSWER:
      Sorry to say, but society is doing all it can.
      For starters, kids who've had a family member turn to suicide as an answer or way out, especially a parent, will find suicide the ultimate answer to all their problems/pain, these are the facts of several studies into teen suicide.
      But i have experienced that in real life, i once cared for a woman whose husband committed suicide leaving 4 kids and her alone. Three of those kids grew to see his suicide as the ultimate answer to solving problems.
      The biggest problem is that when the hormones start, it's much like menopause, in the fact that it does not come on full fledged. It starts and stops slowly, then it finally will start a regular flow, but the body and mind need time to adjust to the hormones.
      You know they talk about several mental illness's, depression being i think more open. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, well with hormones kicking out and in, then adjusting to the regularity, "is" quite the imbalance, so it seems their mimicing a form of temperary mental illness. And depression is one of the main reasons for suicide.
      Teens don't give it time, they think their going to feel like that forever and don't give it a chance, they also feel hopeless just like someone suffering depression. They also seem to magnify their problems, although i do admit their are some pretty pathetic homes and parents out there.
      But right now the highest rate of suicides are men in their 40's.
      Society is doing what it can, if there was another way they'd be doing it.
      I think it wouldn't hurt to teach about the hormones affect on the mind and body during puberty in some health class on something, letting teens know this screwy stage in life will not last long and that things will get a whole lot better once it's over, impress that it will end and the crappy feelings will "disappear" because they do. Just look how screwy some pregnant women get, crying over anything, moody, etc. same dam thing "hormones".

  26. QUESTION:
    How to live with someone going through menopause?
    I am a teen girl and someone I live with has just started menopause and is really moody and snappy and hormonal and just hard to live with to be honest.. I am also doing exams and it is extremely hard to study when you are constantly getting snapped at or hearing arguments. I tried to bring it up but that was when I realised it was menopause and I got snapped at again.. what should I do? I always get given out to when I'm moody like that?

    • ANSWER:
      With sympathy and understanding.
      It will happen to you one day, some women have a rough time going through the menopause.
      Be tolerant and help her when you can, she's probably not enjoying being snappy, and arguments are upsetting when a person feels fragile.

      Ask if there is somewhere out of the way that you can study, or perhaps you could go to a friend's house.

      As you donn't appear to read the answers I've probably wasted my time.

  27. QUESTION:
    Why does menopause cause women to be a little mean?How long does menopause last?
    Why does menopause cause meanness?
    I notice that women tend to be a little mean when going through "the change"
    Why?
    How long does menopause last?
    Women are kind of crazy during menopause.
    My mom sure is moody lately.I can't wait for her to be done.I don't live with my parents but when I visit she can be a little mean sometimes lately.
    How long does it last?
    Why are menopausal women so mean?

    • ANSWER:
      It's pretty much the same issue as PMS, fluctuating hormone levels alter a person's mood.

  28. QUESTION:
    Why are my armpits sweating more than they usually do?
    I'm a 21 year old college student, I'm living where it is currently cold- why have my armpits been sweating much more than they usually do? I heard that it might be my deodorant, but new deodorant brand makes no difference. WTF?

    • ANSWER:
      You have a condition called Hyperhidrosis.Over sweating is a problem that many people suffer from. It is also known as excessive sweating, as well as extreme sweating and in medical terms is called Hyperhidrosis.

      Over sweating is something that millions of people suffer from daily and sometimes, something as simple as moving from one room to the other room, can cause a person to sweat unduly. For some people who suffer from over sweating, it has become such a problem that they are forced to resort to drastic methods such as surgery or strong medications, to resolve their problems.

      Of course this is not always the case, and not all people who suffer from an over sweating problem need to use these methods. These people can instead use other methods which are also readily available such as herbal treatments and other holistic remedies. These can include such things as homeopathy, acupuncture and ayurveda.

      Not everyone likes to use these types of "exotic" treatments, and for these individuals treatment for their over sweating problem can be found in the arms of more conventional medications and remedies. To find out what these are, you might first want to consult with your physician. You will then be able to get a better picture of what your options are for dealing with the problem of over sweating.

      Of course, although these methods don't always work, especially if over sweating runs in your family, you can try to control, or rather change, your diet. Sometimes dietary habits can have a larger impact on your body functions than you even realize. Another thing that you might want to look into, and which can also sometimes have a good reaction, is changing your lifestyle somewhat.

      More to the point, try to stay as stress free as possible since stress can also bring about over sweating. Just think back to the last stress filled situation that you were in, weren't you sweating profusely, even though you might not have realized it at the time?

      Stress and anxiety-induced over sweating can be controlled more easily than you think, and if you feel that you need help in dealing with this aspect of your life, you can even seek the help of a trained and qualified therapist.

      You can of course use commercially available antiperspirants and things, but with the case of over sweating these might just not be strong enough to deal with your problem.

      Or as mentioned earlier, if your over sweating problems are all genetic and passed down to you through your family tree, then help might still be at hand. Ask other members of your family what they did to control their over sweating problems. You might find that the answer is lying within your reach!
      t is a known fact that overweight and obese people are more prone to excessive sweating as they perspire more. However, excessive perspiration can be also due to several underlying medical conditions such as menopause, psychiatric illnesses and very active thyroid glands. Excessive sweating is also known to occur to people with no known medical condition and thus the cause of heavy sweating for this group of people is unknown.

      It is very distressing to suffer from over sweating and many people with this condition also suffer from low self esteem. This is because excessive sweating may cause them to have undesirable body odor, looking unkempt and dirty.

      It is easier for those who are overweight to reduce excessive perspiration since it is just a matter of reducing their body fat weight. Losing weight is easy with the right combination of exercises and healthy eating habits. Many people who find it hard to lose weight and disagree with me that losing weight is easy is because they are doing it wrongly.

      If excessive sweating is localized on parts of the body such as armpits, palms or the soles of feet, then treatments may be necessary to reduce over perspiration. Sometimes anti-perspirants applied to the affected body part may just stop excessive sweating albeit temporarily.

      Simple and non surgical medical treatments that are known to reduce or even sometimes stop excessive sweating successfully are Iontophoresis where a low electrical current is introduced to the affected parts of the body or getting Botulinum toxin injections commonly known as Botox injections.

      If you are suffering from excessive sweating and over perspiration, and since this condition is most prevalent among people who are overweight, go get a medical check up to see if you are obese. If you are, then embark on a healthy diet and exercise program and your excessive sweating condition may be solved permanently.

      Antiperspirants

      The traditional treatment is through the use of antiperspirants. Special antiperspirants have been created especially for people that suffer from hyperhidrosis. These antiperspirants have a clinical formula that provides better protection.

      Botox Injections

      Botox injections are a fairly new form of treatment for people that suffer from overactive sweat glands. It is also one of the most effective forms of treatment. Not only is it very effective at reducing sweat but it also works very quickly. Patients can feel and see results in less than 2 weeks after a Botox treatment. The downside of botox injections is that it is not a cure for excessive sweating and in order to continue with a reduction in sweat, the patient will be expected to keep up with botox injections.

      Oral Medication

      There are two common drugs used to treat patients; Robinul and Ditropan. These drugs are not really used for patients that only sweat in one body are such as the under arms. They are typically used for patients that sweat all over. They work pretty effectively, however there are quite a few side effects associated with them and some of them seem pretty serious such as loss of taste and some patients have reported more serious side effects such as difficulty breathing and swallowing.

      Surgery

      Surgery for the treatment of over sweating has tremendously improved since 2000 and continues to improve. The surgery is now less invasive. The surgery only requires 3 small incision sites that are typically done below the breast. A tiny scope is inserted and allows the doctor to remove the section of the nerve that is responsible for sweating. The surgery is performed in 30 minutes and the results are nearly instant.
      The surgery costs roughly ,500.00 but it is a final solution to ending the problem once and for all.

      One of the cause of over sweating is weight. If you are over weight or obese, you could be over sweating because of that. The simple solution for this is too lose the weight. Losing the weight might not be over night, but developing a healthy life style will not only possibly cure your sweating but it could also make you healthy.

      a solution to sweating can be simple as avoiding foods. If you are easily sweating, it is adviceable that you stay away from spicy foods. Spicy foods can trigger sweating. Also having high blood sugar can, be a cause of over sweating. Watching your blood sugar and foods that you eat that can contribute to this could be the solution to over sweating.

  29. QUESTION:
    when should I reach adulthood and when will I reach menopause?
    I reached puberty at 7, so should I be worried?
    When will I reach menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      Adulthood is a legal concept, not a medical one. If you live in the US, you will be an "adult" in most respect aged 18. Your body should stop having any obvious physical changes by the time you are 19-20, although the brain continues developing into your mid-twenties.

      Starting puberty age 7 is quite early and should be investigated by a doctor. It can just be that you were on the early end of the bell curve, but there are some medical conditions that can cause early development that need to be ruled out.

      It's impossible to say from here when you'll reach menopause except to say that it'll probably be somewhere between your late forties/early fifties. The fact that you developed young does not necessarily mean that you'll go through menopause young... they aren't related.

  30. QUESTION:
    Why do women get menopause and become infertile but men don't and stay fertile all their lives evolution wise?
    Why do infertile post menopause women live longer than fertile men isn't that contradictory to evaluation?
    Men are fertile all their lives but women are not.Once you can't reproduce you are useless to evaluation because you can't pass on your species.Reproducing increases our survival from going extinct.Men in their 90s can make babies but women can't.The majority of the worlds oldest people are women and women's life expectancy is 2-5 years more than men in a lot of country.What is the point of living longer if you can't pass on your species?

    • ANSWER:
      An older person has two potential evolutionary strategies for getting more genes into subsequent generations: 1) keep producing children, despite increasing difficulties in providing for them and increasing likelihood of deleterious mutations; or 2) help his or her grown children raise their offspring. A person could put all his or her resources into option 1, all into option 2, or split the resources between the options.

      Women typically invest more resources into caring directly for children than men do. One reason for this is that they start out putting more resources into individual children, simply by virtue of producing large eggs instead of small sperm, going through menstral cycles and pregnancy, and producing milk. Another reason is that the upper limit of children women can produce with willing partners is much less than the upper limit for men. This means that effort invested into gaining social power or resources will likely have a smaller payoff in terms of number of children than it would for men. This wouldn’t be true in completely monogamous societies, but through most of humans evolutionary history we have been polygamous. Even in modern day first world countries, men are more likely to remarry and produce new families than women are, so by that measure (higher variance in number of offspring in men compared to women) we are still polygynous.

      So given that dichotomy, women tend to put their efforts directly into child-rearing, whereas men (when they stick around) put their efforts into actions that can assist the offspring in less direct ways, such as providing resources and defense. That’s just on average – it doesn’t mean individual people need to follow that arrangement, or that such an arrangement is somehow more “moral” or “natural”.

      So now look at the 2 choices an older person has regarding offspring, and consider how that’s going to work best for men and women on average, given where each tend to put their resources. Women, who tend to provide direct childcare, are going to find it much more difficult than men to effectively put effort towards raising both their own children and their grandchildren. The benefits men provide – of resources and protection – are fairly easily divided up among whoever happens to be in the household, whether it be children or grandchildren. But the benefits women provide – of direct childcare – typically have to be doled out to one child at a time, with a fairly low limit on the number of children that can be raised at any one time. So while men can fairly easily split their resources between the two options, and in fact benefit from a certain amount of economies of scale when there are both children and grandchildren, women tend to have to go with either focusing on option 1 (children) or option 2 (grandchildren).

      At some point, the accumulation of bodily wear and tear, of mutational changes to eggs, and of lack of grandmotherly care for the children of later-born offspring, causes option 2 to result in more descendants than option 1. In the past, women who went through menopause at about that point did in fact produce more descendants, thereby causing the proportionate representation of menopause to increase in subsequent generations until it became the norm.

  31. QUESTION:
    How early do you have to be to go through menopause?
    I'm fourteen and haven't had my period since early September. My period has always come a month late on everything but never this long! I know I'm not pregnant because I'm a virgin and I'm not overweight or skinny. I do, however, live in a stressful environment. Could this be menopause? If not, what do you think it is?

    • ANSWER:
      Probably stress.
      Starting menopause before the age of 30 is pretty rare, it usually starts near the age of 50.

  32. QUESTION:
    What would you do or do you have any suggestions or advice?
    I am a 50 year old pre-menopause woman. I am miserable from all the things that goes with it.I have been dealing with them for over 10 years, and they are getting worse. Would you do HRT if it would help, but yet with all the new data about it and cancer and heart disease would that stop you? I can't take any of the over the counter remidies, as they have soy and I am allergic to soy. Opinions and advice would be very helpful and appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      If you are that miserable, you should talk to your doctor about possibly taking the lowest dose possible of the hormones. By not taking the hormones you "might" live longer because you won't be exposing yourself to the cancer risks. But, is it worth it to you?

  33. QUESTION:
    Should a person have life experience before being considered an adult?
    I read that the brain frontal lobe matures at age 25 and the life expectancy is increasing and they are making products so that people can avoid menopause and aging things.The brain needs to mature before a person should be called an "Adult" but childhood and status as a minor should extend from 18 and 21 agree?

    • ANSWER:
      Well if they mature at 25 why not push the age of majority to that? Jeezus, talk about arrested development, why don't they just NEVER move out.

      I think it's fine the way it is, no other mammal has such a prolonged childhood with lack of responsibility.

      Living is life experience and if you haven't learned anything in 18 years, I doubt another 5 will help you.

  34. QUESTION:
    When should I start testing for ovulation and when should I have sex?
    My period started today Sept. 6th, and I wanted to know when is the earliest to start testing for ovulation. I also wanted to know when I should start having sex and how long can sperm live after intercourse? It would be a great help to me :-)

    • ANSWER:
      Ovulation is a phase of the female menstrual cycle that involves the release of an egg (ovum) from one of the ovaries. New life begins if the ovum meets with a sperm during its journey down the fallopian tube. Ovulation depends on a complex interplay of glands and their hormones, and generally occurs about two weeks before the onset of the menstrual period. Typical ovulation symptoms and signs include changes in cervical mucus and a small rise in basal temperature. For most women, ovulation occurs about once every month until menopause, apart from episodes of pregnancy and breastfeeding. However, some women experience irregular ovulation or no ovulation at all.

      Signs of ovulation
      The female body shows several signs of ovulation. You may experience some or all of these signs, including:

      Regular menstrual cycles - menstrual periods that arrive every 24-35 days are more likely to be ovulatory than periods that occur more or less often.
      Mucus changes - about two weeks before menstruation, an ovulating woman may notice slick and slippery mucus.
      Abdominal pain - some women experience pain during ovulation. The pain may be general or localised to one side of the abdomen.
      Premenstrual symptoms - ovulation may accompany premenstrual symptoms such as breast enlargement and tenderness, abdominal bloating and moodiness.
      Temperature rise - women who use a natural family planning method of contraception will notice a small rise in their basal temperature after ovulation has occurred. The temperature rise is about half a degree Celsius. This temperature rise does not predict ovulation - it suggests that ovulation has already taken place.
      Structures involved in ovulation
      Ovulation depends on the activity of various structures and their hormones, including:
      Hypothalamus - located within the brain. The hypothalamus uses hormones to communicate with the pituitary.
      Pituitary - known as the ‘master gland’ of the hormone (endocrine) system. It is located within the brain, at the base of the skull, and is connected to the hypothalamus by a thin stalk. It uses chemicals to prompt the ovaries to produce their hormones.
      Ovaries - the two almond-shaped glands located within a woman’s pelvis that contain the ova. The ovaries make the two female sex hormones oestrogen and progesterone.
      Menstrual cycle explained
      Ovulation is part of the menstrual cycle. This cycle is caused by the complex and interrelated activity of various hormones. The cycle includes:
      Menstruation - the shedding of the uterine lining.
      Follicular phase - the hypothalamus triggers the pituitary gland to release follicle stimulating hormone (FSH), which prompts the ovaries to produce up to 20 follicles. Each follicle contains an immature ovum. Usually, only one follicle survives to maturity. Assuming the menstrual cycle is around 28 days long, a single ovum matures at about day 10. This event also prompts the thickening of the uterine lining (endometrium) in preparation for a fertilised ovum.
      Ovulation - the maturing follicle prompts the release of higher amounts of oestrogen. The hypothalamus responds by secreting a chemical known as gonadotrophin-releasing hormone (GnRH), which makes the pituitary produce luteinising hormone (LH) and FSH. High levels of LH trigger ovulation within about two days. The mature follicle releases the ovum into the peritoneal cavity; it is then drawn into the open end of the fallopian tube. Small hair-like structures within the fallopian tube wave or ‘massage’ the ovum towards the uterus. Unless the ovum encounters a sperm within 24 hours, it will die.
      Luteal phase - the follicle becomes the corpus luteum, a structure that makes the hormone progesterone. Unless a fertilised ovum implants into the uterine lining, the corpus luteum dies. Without its contribution of progesterone, the uterus can’t maintain the thickened uterine lining, and menstruation occurs.
      Ovulation predictor kits
      There are many different kinds of ovulation predictor kits on the market. Most work by measuring the level of luteinising hormone (LH) in the woman’s urine. LH levels rise about 24 to 36 hours before ovulation takes place. You need to estimate your approximate time of ovulation if you’re to use these kits effectively. All kits come with detailed instructions and a number of testers, but one way to calculate your estimated time of ovulation includes:
      Work out the length of your average menstrual cycle. Day one is the first day of the menstrual period and the last day is the day before the next period begins. Let’s say the menstrual cycle is 28 days long.
      Subtract 17 days. In our example, 28 days minus 17 days equals day 11.
      Use the ovulation predictor kit on day 11. Continue testing daily until the test comes back positive. A positive result means you are going to ovulate within the next 24 to 36 hours.
      Having sex around the time of ovulation means that the sperm and ovum have a good chance of meeting in the fallopian tube.
      Medical tests
      Medical tests can check whether or not ovulation took place. These tests can include:
      Blood test - to check for the presence of progesterone. A level greater than 20nmol/L indicates that ovulation took place. This test must be taken about three to 10 days before the first day of the next expected period.
      Pregnancy ultrasound - the presence of a foetus is the only 100 per cent proof that ovulation took place. Medical tests such as ovulation predictor kits and blood tests can only ascertain that ovulation probably - not definitely - occurred.
      Problems with ovulation
      Common causes of ovulatory problems include:
      Hypothalamus - events that can alter the functioning of the hypothalamus include polycystic ovary syndrome, overexercising, poor nutrition and chronic stress.
      Pituitary - events that can prevent the pituitary gland from producing enough hormones include benign pituitary tumours or direct injury to the pituitary itself.
      Ovary - events that can prevent the ovaries from releasing ova include early menopause (also known as ovarian failure), or damage to or removal of the ovaries.
      Increase your chances of ovulation
      Ways to increase your chances of ovulation include:
      Women who are seriously obese or underweight may have problems with ovulation. Try to keep your weight around the average for your height and build.
      Excessive exercise can prevent ovulation. Ease back on your physical activity levels - this may require expert help if your desire to exercise is actually a form of bulimia.
      Repeated crash dieting, fasting, skipping meals and other disordered eating habits can hamper your body’s ability to regularly ovulate. Make sure to eat properly and regularly. Once again, you may need expert help if these habits are associated with an eating disorder such as anorexia or bulimia nervosa.
      Chronic emotional stress can play havoc with your menstrual cycle. Try to reduce the amount of stress in your life, and learn ways to better cope with stress. For example, relaxation training may be helpful.
      Reproductive technology - ovulation induction
      Some women who aren’t ovulating regularly can be helped by reproductive technologies including tablets and injections to trigger higher production of ovulatory hormones. The dosage needs to be carefully monitored, because ovulation induction can trigger the maturation of a number of ova, which could lead to multiple pregnancies

  35. QUESTION:
    How can we help the elderly people facing discrimination?
    How do you think we can help elderly people who are facing discrimination today, feel more included and live more productively in our society and community? Thanks for all answers.

    • ANSWER:
      I think it's absolutely tragic that this is the only time in society, or in this society anyway, that our elders are no longer respected or held in esteem. Perhaps the native Indians of North America may still have that as part of their culture. But social scientists have said that this is the first time in history that young people are teaching elders how to live in our culture. I know exactly. When you need a 12 year old to program your universal remote, or fix something with your computer, it's odd. It truly isn't the natural order of things.
      I'm 54 years old and I truly wish I could live among a tribe where I was valued for my wisdom and life experience. Further, there are also tribes in South America where women who have passed the point of giving birth, (here it's known as menopause), where their wisdom is valued as well. As for the question you've posed, that is a serious societal problem in North America. The elderly shouldn't have to live in fear for their safety or their valuables being stolen.
      I truly believe it comes back to teaching children to respect others in the school system. It's what you learn as a child that stays with you in your later years.

  36. QUESTION:
    How do i prevent my rats from getting tumors?
    i just got two male rats and theyre 1 month and 2 weeks old and i want to make sure they live long healthy lives. My friends have had rats and they all died of tumors, how do i make sure they die of old age?

    • ANSWER:
      Male rats do not get tumors nearly as often as females. Getting a male neutered, contrary to another answer, will not help prevent tumors in males. Spaying and neutering are different things. Neutering has no significant heath benefits. This is because females have a uterus, which causes estrogen levels to rise after menopause. Estrogen promotes tumor growth. Because males do not have a uterus, therefore not promoting estrogen levels, neutering a male rat will not reduce the risk of cancer.

      Now that I have debunked this, on to your question. A healthy diet always helps, as well as a very clean cage. Vitamin supplements, such as a pea-sized amount of red palm oil once every other day and a drop of echinacea once a day every other week, can strengthen immune systems against mycoplasmosis, which is another common cause of death in rats.

      Jesica, do not say all wood beddings are bad, because that is false. The reason pine and cedar are unhealthy for rats is because they are softwoods. Hardwoods, such as aspen, are fine for rats.

  37. QUESTION:
    How many people in the USA have scoliosis, hypertension, sleep apnea or a broken rod in their back?
    As to the statistics on the Scoliosis I would like to know how that would apply to botht he hereditary forms and conditional or accidental forms of Scoliosis.

    How many people currently live in the USA today?

    Ty in advance!

    • ANSWER:
      I read on the net that sleep apnea affects between 6 and 8 per cent of the male population over the age of 50. And between 2 and 4 per cent of the female population over the age of 50.

      It becomes more common in women after the menopause and it's thought that estrogen is protective for the development of sleep apnoea.

  38. QUESTION:
    How to fix sexual desire differences in a relationship?
    Hi all,

    I am in a serious relationship for almost two years now. Things are great with him, we even plan on to get married in the next two years or so.

    The only problem that we have is sexually. We do have sex on average twice a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Like, last week we did it 4 times. But still my boyfriend often complains that we don't do it enough.

    He actually gets depressed and is hurt in his feelings if I don't want to have sex whenever he wants to. He says I don't go after him enough, or if I do he says I just do because I feel I need to.

    This is not entirely true. I do enjoy sex, but I do not need to have it as often as he does. And I don't get desesperate either when I don't get it.

    Anyways... I am wondering if there is a way to improve my libido, or to make his lower. I am not sure how to deal with it.

    I do not want to take hormones : I am only in my 20s and it is only prescribed for women who have their menopause already.

    Thanks!
    - He says he would be satisfied with 4 times a week + masturbation...but I honestly doubt it.
    - He doesn't want me to force myself to have sex either, so the question is not that I have to make a compromise...it is for sexual desire.
    - Foreplay doesn't turn me on.
    Ok now boyfriend says it's not about the frequency, it's about my level of desire. He says I don't desesperately want it and he wishes I did.

    Any suggestion?

    • ANSWER:
      Okay you are going to get a ton of answers but the truth is there is no defined answer to the age old problem. Was it ever thus, it is entirely unlikely that two people are going to want sexual congress at the same time as each other. With a female, there are the obvious times when the sex drive is going to be lower, and if the lady is rearing other children she is going to be tired and so just not able to jump into bed with all the gusto of youth. With a male, the sex drive wanes as they get older, that a fact guys so learn to live with it, in fact most women are more sexually aware at 45 than men, also with men after a hard day at the office, usually that is the only thing hard that day and so they are not able to perform. So forget medication, or counseling, this is one of those things that sort themselves out in a relationship that is founded on mutual love and not on mutual lust.

      Okay I have read your additional posting. Will you take advise from an old guy that has seen life? Get yourself a new man, this one is not for you. he is using his sexual proclivity for a reason that is not a harbinger for a lasting relationship.Just think what is going to happen if you are married with children and you cant fulfill his sexual wants, I use the word want rather than needs, how long do you think he is going to hang around. This is the time to call it quits, it will not get any better, so cut your emotional loses now .

  39. QUESTION:
    Why is it that the smaller the animal the smaller the lifespan?
    Whales live for decades and butterflies live for a day, but why? Why should the size of the animal affect their lifespan? (Excluding predators)

    • ANSWER:
      Just wanted you to note unrelated facts:
      1. butterflies as imago life stage maybe lives for days but the insect itself starting from egg may live for months developing from stage to stage, some flydragon larvae live for years in the water.
      2. Red flour beetle can live for years in adult stage
      3. tiny African naked mole rats especially breeding females live as long as 20 years

      Ageing is very interesting phenomenon and has mostly to do with genes. SIzes do matter however but there are many exceptions.
      There is mouse mutant called dwarf something. It has defect in pituitary gland. These mutants are twice as small as wild type mice but live twice as longer.

      In conclusion, if you want to study gerontology, look deeper than simple size correlation. There is one explanation with size but it is too cut and dry.
      Another thing you may hear that humans live for so long because of medicine, etc. but we do live longer w/o care than other mammals - in other mammals females are usually die shortly after their exausted their reproductive abilities but in our species females shoot well over menopause. There are other stuff too - too much material to start even simple explanations.

  40. QUESTION:
    what other species of animal loses their capability to reproduce in the female gender?
    Is it me or are the female human species the only one that go through menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      Menopause occurs in mammalian species, if they live long enough.

      "dogs, rabbits, elephants, whales, etc."
      http://www.straightdope.com/columns/020920.html

  41. QUESTION:
    What medication should I have prescribed?
    I am going to the doctor on Monday and about to join the world of pill-poppers. :) I've just recently decided that I do not have to live the life I have been used to. Here are my symptoms:

    - Worrying excessively over things I can not control
    - Extreme blushing when speaking in front of people
    - Difficulty gaining the courage to go to new places - even if it
    is just an unfamiliar store
    - Night sweats
    - Nightly teeth-grinding
    - Extreme Irritations - examples of irritants- babysitting,
    house guests, and occassionally my husband and child
    - Insomnia

    What is my problem and what kind of medication can I expect my doctor to prescribe?

    • ANSWER:
      If you've already decided that meds will be best for you, than by all means take whatever the doctor prescribes. But don't be shocked if he tells you they're unnecessary at present. The truth is a lot of these symptoms just go with the territory, meaning that on top of all normal thoughts and worries, we have to carry around the burdens of nowadays somewhat mad society, in which 99% percent of all news tend to be more strange and bizarre than the previous.

      The best way not to over-worry is to be as positive about everything as possible, letting yourself know you'll deal with everything as need be, in its precise moment. Be confident this is the case with you, and indeed you'll take care of things when need approaches. And specially try this at night before falling asleep, since after all a good night's sleep will restore you completely.

      Regarding the night sweats, and the blushing, unless you are in your pre-menopause or are menopausal already_and yes it can happen at a much earlier age than for most women_then all this is also due to your stress, which in turn is brought on by your desire to exceed yourself more as a mother, wife, etc.

      Tell yourself what great job your doing. Compliment yourself on how you go through the day doing much more than someone else would probably do in a case such as yours. Being as tired, irritable, worried, and even having apathy for certain things_which may be the case for not wanting to visit a new store, etc._Do this without feeling sorry for yourself or trying to "rub it in other people's face". Since you do know that your opinion counts and you are doing a great job!!!

      Then finally_and definetely_set aside a bit of each day for yourself. Use this time for reading, crochetting, knitting, sewing something for you only!!! Or simply watch any movie you like. Go for a stroll. Go to that precise store or place you are evading, and don't even think why you didn't want to go there in the first place! And as for house guests, unless you are "required by a close family member to have them often and for lengths of time", then try to keep these visits as far apart as possible.

      If these visits are "necessary", than ask your husband, or the guest itself to help you out with the setting of table, fetching of drinks, grocery shopping, etc. You'll do wonders for yourself once you rely on others to do some of the things you think are expected of you alone.

  42. QUESTION:
    How many people die from Coronary heart disease every year?
    Trying to finish a project, but I can't find definite numbers of how many suffer from it and how many die and such. Also, how long can someone with it be expected to live?

    • ANSWER:
      An estimated 17.1 million people died from CVDs in 2004, representing 29%of all global deaths. Of these deaths, an estimated 7.2 million were due to coronary heart disease and 5.7 million were due to stroke.
      In developed countries, coronary artery disease (CAD) is the leading cause of death in both sexes, accounting for about one third of all deaths. Mortality rate among white men is about 1/10,000 at ages 25 to 34 and nearly 1/100 at ages 55 to 64. Mortality rate among white men aged 35 to 44 is 6.1 times that among age-matched white women. For unknown reasons, the sex difference is less marked in nonwhites. Mortality rate among women increases after menopause and, by age 75, equals or even exceeds that of men.

  43. QUESTION:
    Can using the nicotine patch for much longer then suggested cause your hair to thin out?
    I am a 54 year old female who's stylist says my hair is really thinning out. Any suggestions? I'm healthy and live a fairly stress free lifestyle. Thanks for your suggestions.

    • ANSWER:
      JOIN THE CLUB.. I am 49. I was on the patch two years ago.. my hair never thinned out. For the past year it has been thinning and I'M SURE that it is pre-menopause. My sister (twin) is the same age and going throught the same thing and she hasn't even quit smoking yet.
      I have had signs of starting menopause and I'm sure that's what it is. I think you've hit the same age thing... maybe even a little late. I have heard that hormone replacment can help but never really researched it. I've always had thick hair so I'm not frantic yet.. I've lost a lot but it's not crucial. I think the thinning might have slowed down a bit after a year but i can't be sure. I'd go with the menopause/hormone thing and start some research. Good luck.. this is pretty traumatic!

      oh.. and P.S. you don't need the patch.. you'll do well even after you get rid of it. I thought I was a lifetime smoker.. I smoked for years upon years and smoked 2-3 packs a day.. I got rid of the patch and did it on my own after a few days. You can do it if I could because I was the worst!

  44. QUESTION:
    How do I get my mom to stop lying to me?
    She recently told me my dad has cancer. Well, I called him and he definitely doesn't. (They are divorced). Then she told me she kicked my little sister out of the house (she's 19). I talked to my sister and she is definitely still living there. WTF?! Why does she keep lying to me? What do I do?

    • ANSWER:
      Ask her why she is lying to you. Confront her and tell her your Dad said he did not have cancer and your sister said she is still living with her. Ask her what her problem is. If they really are lies, she obviously has a problem. Maybe she is not well. Maybe she is going through menopause and is suffering a lot. Maybe she's looking for attention for one reason or another. Did she always lie?

  45. QUESTION:
    Would like to hear other peoples experiences of struggling through the menopause?
    I have started writing a book about struggling through the menopause and would like to hear of others' experiences

    • ANSWER:
      As I had 'everything removed' except one ovary, my menopause started early, 39! First my eyebrows fell off, honestly and then grew back so feint you can hardly see them. I had a'nervous throat' I felt I was unable to swallow and panicked so much my husband thought I was having a heart attack! The night sweats were so unbearable I could have happily slept in the fridge!We got a superking size bed so I needed a loud hailer to speak to him, true. We still have this bed thank god. I was put on HRT which made me put on about a hundred weight of fat, then my eyebrows fell off again! they didn't like HRT! The nervous throat gradually went away with a liberal ammount of alcohol. My husband never knew what sort of monster he was coming home to. He said I was like a rottweiller with lipstick. I have clung on to my remaining ovary as i feel that it is my only source of sanity. The last time I was subjected to an ugly probe to see how my ovary was it hid. This is perfectly true and they did't stop probing until they found it, a poor shrivelled up litttle peanut cringing in a corner which I was told was the result of taking HRT! No more pills for me!!! I still have the sweats and my temperature goes up and down like a yoyo. My husband says we are like Jack Sprat and his wife[if you've heard of them]. Sorry to have gone on so long but I was also quite suicidal and thought life was not worth living. My Mum sailed through her menopause with only gaining a couple of pounds and no other symptoms at all. Yes it was a struggle and still is but hey that's what all the 'fun' of being a woman is all about.
      P.S. I am now on Prozac for my troubles!

  46. QUESTION:
    Do you think having a hysterectomy will make me grow older quicker?
    I had to have the full op last year and do live a good life with a good diet
    I had the op last October and am feeling a bit tired and depressed, thought there might me a connection.

    • ANSWER:
      Dear Annie, a hysterectomy will put you into early menopause, but other than that, no, you will not grow older quicker. You can still be a young, vital person, even without all your parts!

  47. QUESTION:
    Did women go through menopause during medieval times?
    So today I was thinking, and it occurred to me that if people were dying in their 40s and 50s back in the day, and most women in today's times go through menopause in their 40s and 50s, would they have gone through menopause right before they ended up dying? Would they have gone through it at a younger age? Would they have had menopause at all?

    • ANSWER:
      Not all women died in their 40s and 50s in medieval times. Some lived into old age, Eleanor of Aquitaine for example lived to be over 80. Those who lived past their 40s would certainly have experienced the menopause, and like today, some women would have been more affected by it than others.

      Medieval doctors were certainly aware of the menopause. In The Diseases of Women, by Trotula of Salerno (possibly a woman physician) published in the 13th century, it says:

      'Since in women not so mcuh heat abounds that it suffices to use up the moistures which daily collect in them, their weakness cannot endure so much exertion as to be able to put forth that moisture to the outside air as in the case of men.

      Nature herself, on account of this definciency, has assinged for them a special purgation namely the menses, commonly called flowers . .Now a purgation of this sort usually befalls women about the 13th or 14th year or a little earlier or later according to whether heat or cold abounds in them more. It lasts up to about the 50th year if she is lean; sometimes up to the 60th or 65th year if she is moist; in the moderatelyu fat up to about the 45th.'

  48. QUESTION:
    I'm in the middle of the menopause and I have a mirena coil fitted. It works just fine but?
    I have regular sex with my hubby [as you do!]. A couple of weeks ago we noticed that my rib cage looked bigger and now my stomach is more rounded too. I really don't want to go the docs or the chemist for a pregnancy kit as we live in a small town but is it possible I'm pregnant? I don't have periods cos of my age and the coil. Please help!

    • ANSWER:
      When I was a teen, my school counselor had a large x-ray in her office of her twins (with whom I attended school). She was showing it to me one day, and I noticed a tiny little squiggle, shaped like a #7 in between them. I asked her "What's that thing?" After telling me I was the first person ever to notice, she informed me that it was her IUD.
      She was in her fifties, and her kids were in their early teens, so she would have been in her early 40s when she conceived, evidently without intending to, and having taken proper precautions.

      Either way, you need to see the doctor - these symptoms can be caused by many things, some of them interesting or joyful, and some of them downright dangerous. So make an appointment.

  49. QUESTION:
    Why is it 12 year olds feel the need to test your limits and decisions?
    Ah, lucky me, I live with a 12 year old female that has found her mouth and PMS in the same year.

    • ANSWER:
      Feel your pain Ginger. Lived through those years and still living with their PMS. It's a real lively household sometimes when my menopause kicks in. No wonder my husband spends so much time in the basement working on scrollsawing.:-)

  50. QUESTION:
    from an evolutionary perspective, why do women lose fertility in old age?
    Most women go through menopause, and live for years or decades after that.

    From an evolutionary point of view, why does this happen? Shouldn't women who remain fertile throughout life be more likely to pass on their genes?
    What is the evolutionary advantage of women who lose fertility?

    • ANSWER:


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