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When Menopause Starts

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. QUESTION:
    How much longer will my menopause last?
    I had a hysterectomy in 2001 in which I also lost an ovary. My menopause started not long after that and still continues. I took HRT for a while but stopped after moving to Spain as I don't have a regular doctor over here. I still have the hot flushes and the mood swings but the worse for me is the lack of sex drive. It is driving a huge wedge between me and my husband which I do understand from his point of view but am tired of being called sexless and frigid, I am scared he will leave me because of it. Is there any natural remedies or anything over the counter that will help me. Also, how long does the menopause last. Getting desperate here now.

    • ANSWER:
      Your menopause will last forever, it is permanent and not reversible....

  2. QUESTION:
    How can I make the days between my periods longer?
    It's naturally around 20 days, and it is VERY annoying. I know many people with over 28 days between theirs, and some even 40! That means that I can get my period TWICE per month sometimes, and I know that there's a set amount of 'eggs' in a woman's ovaries, and once they are all gone, you're menopause starts. That means that mine will start much earlier than someone who's period always comes later. Help?

    • ANSWER:
      that is not true at all!

      suggest you learn more about the female eggs and menopause

      HOW MANY EGGS DOES A WOMAN ACTUALLY HAVE?

      A human female typically has about 400,000 follicles/potential eggs, all formed before birth. Only several hundred (about 480) of these “eggs” will actually ever be released during her reproductive years. Normally, in humans, after the onset of puberty, due to the stimulation of follicular-stimulating-hormone (FSH) one “egg” per cycle matures and is released from its ovary. One month the left ovary will release a potential egg and the next month the right ovary will release a potential egg.

      http://www.drstandley.com/bodysystems_femalerepro.shtml

      http://www.menopause.org/for-women/expert-answers/faqs-menopause-basics

  3. QUESTION:
    At what age do a woman start menopause?
    I am 45 years old and my breast are very sore I know that I'm not preg. my tubes are tied. but I would like to know at what age does menopause start.

    • ANSWER:
      Average age 51. Women with tubes tied go through it 2 yrs earlier on average, so 49. Before menopause, you have several years of fluctuating hormones. So you're on target.

  4. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to know when menopause may start?
    I started my period when I was 13. I'm only 20 now. Is it possible to find a way to know when menopause may start according to age when periods start? ( Bet not ) but I'm not sure

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    Omg ok thanks! I know when my mother started hers. She started at 13 as well and she ended somewhere around the late 40s almost to 50. I imagine I'll be going through the same thing as her. ( Possibly )

    • ANSWER:
      It's different for every woman, but the average age of onset of perimenopause is 46; the average age of menopause is 51.

      I started my period at age 13, and I fit the above average precisely.

      Also, we tend to take after our mothers. My mother also hit menopause at age 51.

  5. QUESTION:
    Is it even possible to hit menopause at 32?
    My husband and I had sex and now I'm not having my period. I'm it's just menopause starting early because if not I am pregnant with my 12th. Please help I am scared to death!

    • ANSWER:
      Your 12th?? Woah, big family.
      I would say, go to the doctor and take get a professional pregnancy test or even go to the store and buy one.
      If you were starting menopause, then it would be very early I think.

  6. QUESTION:
    Is it natural to have periods for elderly lady of sound health at 56 , though she is on pills.?
    Although it is said that menopause starts from 48 yrs. Why this then. Is it because of the regular pills usage that has delayed the menopause.

    • ANSWER:
      I would like to know what country you are from that a woman of age 56 is considered elderly? Sorry but I am just a little old lady of 48 years who is still menstuating, maybe I should be taken out & shot in the backyard for having the nerve to waste supplies that could more inteliigently be used for a younger woman?) THERE IS NO SET AGE FOR MENOPAUSE TO STRIKE!! And you should be grateful for this, as I am sure that when she DOES get menopausal, she will have much less patience with your ignorance!!

  7. QUESTION:
    Can partial seizures occur once a month regularly and last for the whole day recurring about every hour?
    My friend has been having them since her menopause started. Her EEG and MRI were normal and her doctor says it is depression.

    • ANSWER:
      This is from the Ontario Epilepsy website
      http://www.epilepsyontario.org/client/EO/EOWeb.nsf/web/
      which describes as many seizure types as there are(a lot!). I looked up both partial seizures simple and complex. Then I looked at this types. The key here is that these are rooted in emotional issues, there is no EEG abnormality and that medication for epilepsy is ineffective. Since she only gets the seizures once a month, it could well be tied into some kind of menstrual issue surrounding menopause. I hope this helps you out.

      Psychogenic Seizures

      (Pseudo-seizures)

      Psychogenic seizures are not classified as a form of epilepsy. They affect between 5 and 20 percent of people thought to have epilepsy. Psychogenic seizures can occur at any age, but are more common in people under the age of 55. They occur 3 times more frequently in women than men. They may arise from various psychological factors, may be prompted by stress, and may occur in response to suggestion. It has also been found that such disorders may be self-induced. They may be used to get attention, to be excused from work, to collect financial compensation, or merely to escape an intolerable social situation. They seldom occur in the absence of others. Trauma related to physical illness has been found to trigger these seizures in elderly individuals. People with early-onset psychogenic seizures often have a history of sexual abuse.

      Psychogenic seizures can be characterized by features common with epilepsy like writhing and thrashing movements, quivering, screaming or talking sounds, and falling to the floor. Psychogenic attacks differ from epileptic seizures in that out-of-phase movements of the upper and lower extremities, pelvic thrusting, and side-to-side head movements are evident. However, psychogenic seizures vary from one occurrence to another and are not readily stereotyped. Indicators like pupillary dilation, depressed corneal reflexes, the presence of Babinski responses, autonomic cardiorespiratory changes, tongue biting and urinary/fecal incontinence are more probable with epilepsy and are not usually manifested in psychogenic seizures.

      Psychogenic seizures may last a couple of minutes or hours, ending as abruptly as they began. Anxiety may be experienced prior to an attack, followed by relief and relaxation afterwards, leading some to postulate that psychogenic seizures may occur as a direct response to stress in order to relieve tension. Afterwards, patients usually have a vague recollection of the seizure, without the usual postictal symptoms of drowsiness and depression.

      It is difficult to differentiate between psychogenic and epileptic seizures. However, one highly reliable indicator of a psychogenic seizure is eye closure during the seizure; when people with epilepsy have seizures the eyes tend to remain open. Still, statistics indicate that, in 20-30% of cases, epileptologists are incorrect in attempting to distinguish one from the other. Although psychogenic seizures are not caused by electrical discharges in the brain and thus do not register any EEG abnormalities, they are often mistaken for epileptic disorders. It is also possible to have both psychogenic seizures and epilepsy. Most patients with psychogenic seizures are misdiagnosed and consequently treated with epilepsy drugs or other epilepsy therapies, sometimes with severe and fatal side effects.

      Medications are ineffective in the treatment of psychogenic disorders. Patients who are diagnosed with psychogenic seizures are usually referred to a therapist, to learn to control stress and become familiar with coping techniques. Since the vast majority of psychogenic seizures operate on a psychological level, behavioral manipulation methods may be used.

  8. QUESTION:
    Is pregnancy possible within 7-8 months of 1st child birth and before menopause starting?
    I would like to know whether there are possibility of pregnancy occuring within 8 months of 1st delivery and even before starting of menopause due to infant( mother) feeding. (Menopause has not started yet after first delivery) ?

    • ANSWER:
      Within six months of our son (first baby) being born, we were pregnant with our daughter. Then, within nine months of our daughter being born, we were pregnant again with our third... 12 months later, we got pregnant with this one! :) lol... so yes, you can! :)

      With each baby I was nursing up until we found out we were pregnant again, so I just wanted to throw that in because I know some think it's a form of birth control... nope. :) And I did NOT start my period between our first and second. I did between 2 and 3 and 3 and 4 however... ok, that is getting confusing.

  9. QUESTION:
    What are some of the symptoms of menopause?
    I'm 44 and my periods are irregular. I have new hair growing around my hairline and bad headaches. Are these symptoms that menopause is starting?

    • ANSWER:
      hot flashes, night sweats, and mood fluctuations are common syptoms of menopause,but usually menopause starts around 50 but has been known to start sooner.

  10. QUESTION:
    can breathlessness result from menopause or rather cardiac problems?
    my mother is 62, her menopause started 3 years ago, she decided against hormonal therapy. she experience shortness of breath (need for taking a bigger breath) . her echocardiogram, blood tests and ekg did not show any problems, but those can not exclude heart problems i heard.

    should she undergo coronary computer angio to rule out heart problems ? (but i know that level of radiation is huge 50-100 times normal chest x-raying ....

    • ANSWER:
      Firstly there is no link between breathlessness and the menopause. You give no details of her weight, smoking history, past medical history nor medication history if any.

      You don't refer a patient for angiography until they have had many other tests first, and then it is a secondary care decision. If her breathlessness remains unexplained she needs referred to either a cardiologist or a respiratory physician, depending on where her GP feels the problem lies.

  11. QUESTION:
    Is there a new test which enables you to be advised when you will start the menopause?
    I've been told there is anew hormonal test which can determine when they think the menopause will start. Is this right?

    • ANSWER:
      yep!

  12. QUESTION:
    can breathlessness result from menopause or rather cardiac problems?
    my mother is 62, her menopause started 3 years ago, she decided against hormonal therapy. she experience shortness of breath (need for taking a bigger breath) . her echocardiogram, blood tests and ekg did not show any problems, but those can not exclude heart problems i heard.

    should she undergo coronary computer angio to rule out heart problems ? (but i know that level of radiation is huge 50-100 times normal chest x-raying ....

    • ANSWER:
      Firstly there is no link between breathlessness and the menopause. You give no details of her weight, smoking history, past medical history nor medication history if any.

      You don't refer a patient for angiography until they have had many other tests first, and then it is a secondary care decision. If her breathlessness remains unexplained she needs referred to either a cardiologist or a respiratory physician, depending on where her GP feels the problem lies.

  13. QUESTION:
    Can the symptoms of menopause start in your early thirties?
    I am experiencing hot flashes at night, especially, and wondering how likely it is that I am in peri-menopause? ( pre menopause) I heard you can get symptoms years before you turn barren.

    • ANSWER:
      you can experience this even in your 20's. I would check with your doc for proper diagnosis.

  14. QUESTION:
    What age does the menopause start for a women? My period hasn't stopped for 2 months?
    im 50 years old, and i am getting irregular periods. My period hasn't stopped for 2 months. its been on off and on off. is this regular? is this a sign of periods for me about to end permanently for my entire life? is this a menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      You need to see a doctor. You're probably bleeding either due to a problem, or else you are perimenopausal. This is the time before menopause when you have irregular hormones and irregular periods as your ovaries sputter and stop working. Average age of menopause is 51, so you're likely right on target. Yet you ALWAYS have to get something checked out when you have weird bleeding like that.

  15. QUESTION:
    at what age does menopause start?
    at what age does menopause start and how do you know

    • ANSWER:
      Average age is 51. Menopause is defined as going 12 months in a row with no period. I think what you're wondering about is perimenopause--the time before menopause when you get changing hormones but you haven't stopped getting periods altogether. You know you're perimenopausal because you start getting changes in your period--less frequent, more frequent, sometimes very light, other times very heavy, sometimes skipping a period for a few months.

  16. QUESTION:
    can breathlessness result from menopause or rather cardiac problems?
    my mother is 62, her menopause started 3 years ago, she decided against hormonal therapy. she experience shortness of breath (need for taking a bigger breath) . her echocardiogram, blood tests and ekg did not show any problems, but those can not exclude heart problems i heard.

    should she undergo coronary computer angio to rule out heart problems ? (but i know that level of radiation is huge 50-100 times normal chest x-raying ....

    • ANSWER:
      Menopause can do that to you. Fear can be a big facter here. If you scared or upset, body pulls in tight around chest and this can cause breathing problems. Depression can be a major factor. Feeling worthless and not needed also. Lots of love but not too much worry helps. Also Bach flower remedies, Aspen, for fear and Red Chestnut for worry, help.

  17. QUESTION:
    can breathlessness result from menopause or rather cardiac problems?
    my mother is 62, her menopause started 3 years ago, she decided against hormonal therapy. she experience shortness of breath (need for taking a bigger breath) . her echocardiogram, blood tests and ekg did not show any problems, but those can not exclude heart problems i heard.

    should she undergo coronary computer angio to rule out heart problems ? (but i know that level of radiation is huge 50-100 times normal chest x-raying ....

    • ANSWER:
      Firstly there is no link between breathlessness and the menopause. You give no details of her weight, smoking history, past medical history nor medication history if any.

      You don't refer a patient for angiography until they have had many other tests first, and then it is a secondary care decision. If her breathlessness remains unexplained she needs referred to either a cardiologist or a respiratory physician, depending on where her GP feels the problem lies.

  18. QUESTION:
    how many eggs does a woman ovulate all her life?
    if menopause starts,is there no more eggs possible?

    • ANSWER:
      it all depends on the woman. You can be born from the begining with all the eggs you wil need all your life to get pregnant or you could have just plenty to get pregnant once or not at all.

      But even if you are born with all your eggs it could be that they are un firtle or that they will not move from were they were to be released because you have a cist.

      In average a girl statrts ovulating from the time she starts her menstral cycle but i have read that there are chanses that girls start ovulating even from the day they are born, i saw it in an article a long time ago., theat a girl who had not even had her period had conceved from a rape. and then ot all depends how long you live to be shure how many time you will ovulate.

  19. QUESTION:
    How to tell if menopause is starting when on an IUD?
    How do I know if I've started menopause. I'm 46, but on an IUD so I'm not sure what signs I would have because my periods are so light next to nothing.

    • ANSWER:
      You'd have menopausal symptoms like hot flashes, moodiness, fatigue, joint pain, vaginal dryness, dry eyes, and your periods would be nothing, not next to nothing.

  20. QUESTION:
    can breathlessness result from menopause or rather cardiac problems?
    my mother is 62, her menopause started 3 years ago, she decided against hormonal therapy. she experience shortness of breath (need for taking a bigger breath) . her echocardiogram, blood tests and ekg did not show any problems, but those can not exclude heart problems i heard.

    should she undergo coronary computer angio to rule out heart problems ? (but i know that level of radiation is huge 50-100 times normal chest x-raying ....

    • ANSWER:
      Yes cardio can cause respiration problems... But lung problems also. Might be as well to have lung function and efficiency tests first , as these do not involve radiation etc... a series of tests involving light exercise can determine if heart or arteries are affecting oxygen intake, therefore shortness of breath... Quite a few tests can be done before angio is necessary.

  21. QUESTION:
    How do I help my wife with menopause?
    I have been married 7 years and love my wife very much. How do I help her go through menopause? I have started getting educated on what menopause is and try to understand what she is going through. Is there other things I ca do?

    • ANSWER:
      You're wife is very fortunate to have you. You are doing a good thing by educating yourself on the topic and learning what you can. That will help. There are too many people out there who don't know what to do and part of the problem is that they don't know what they're dealing with. Another important thing is to just support her. It's not an easy time but be kind and understanding. Sometimes women just need to cry even if they don't know why. Try to be patient with her if you find yourself not understanding.

  22. QUESTION:
    My mother started experiencing pre menopause symptoms?
    she is 51 and she started experiencing it since 46 or 47!
    she got her periods now..3 days earlier and is hardly bleeding and has a lot of pain..!
    when will her menopause start any idea?

    • ANSWER:
      Actually, her 'menopause' has already started. (It is not full menopause yet, because she is still having periods)

      She is going through what is called -peri-menopause - which is the few years before her periods actually stop altogether.
      When her periods stop, totally, for a full year (no periods at all) then she has actually entered menopause (meaning no periods)
      Most women usually stop their periods altogether when they are around 51 or 52.
      And the periods before these years can be irregular and can cause distress.
      Has she seen a physician lately?
      This might be a good idea for her to get a good check-up to see that everything is o.k.
      Encourage her to see her doctor -
      And continue to give her support - She is lucky to have you for her daughter because you care about her.
      Take Care.

  23. QUESTION:
    i have heart palpitations just before my menstrual cycle?
    I am 48 years old and just a few months ago i started having heart palpitations just before my period started. I didn't know if this was something i should have checked or if it could be menopause starting.

    • ANSWER:
      The heart heart palpitations just before my menstrual cycle, could be a sign of approaching menopause. Consult a gynecologist...

  24. QUESTION:
    When should I have reached puberty and when will I reach menopause?
    I reached puberty at 7, and I am a bit worried.
    When should I reach menopause if I started puberty at this age?
    Also, as I forgot to put, will I get thrown out of school for underage sex?
    And, Where can I talk about puberty without mum knowing?

    • ANSWER:
      It wouldn't matter if you reached puberty early as many reach menopause at late forties/early fifties.
      You wouldn't get kicked out of school for under-age sex and there may a teacher or even a councillor at your school you can talk to.

  25. QUESTION:
    Can you start menopause when you are on birth control pills?
    Or, will you know you are starting menopause when you are on the pill? Will you still have normal periods? I am 32 and a bit young but the females in my family go through menopause young. I was just wondering because I am having horrible hot flashes at night and was wondering if the pill would mask menopause? Any help would be appreciated.

    • ANSWER:
      The oestrogen provided in the BCP (birth control pill) may be enough to control menopausal symptoms if you happened to be going through it whilst on birth control pills so in a way yes it could mask the fact that you were going through the menopause (depending on the level of oestrogen you are on) . Having said that, the night sweats can be side fx of the pill.
      With regards to periods, the bcp causes a monthly period so there is no reason why that would necessarily stop because you may be going through an early menopause. They would stop however, if you were definitely going through menopause and not on the bcp!

      If you are concerned and really want to know then a trip to the Doc to check your hormone levels esp FSH (follicle stimulating hormone) and LH ( lutenizing hormone) (used to determine if you are in or about to enter menopause) would be best but am not sure if they can test that if still on the bcp, but I'm sure they'll clarify that for you!

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  26. QUESTION:
    On average what age do women start menopause ?
    My friend and I were wondering on average what age do you start menopause.

    Also, if you start your period at a later age (eg17 compared to 10) does that mean you start menopause later?

    • ANSWER:
      Menopause isn't the sudden stopping of your periods. For most women, it's a gradual happening called "perimenopause" http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/perimenopause/DS00554, then "menopause" is defined as having gone a year without periods.

      Some women in perimenopause don't reven realize what's happening. It often starts happening in the 40's. Periods will get longer or shorter, or heavier or lighter, or more/less often, as hormones start declining.

      Perimenopause can be triggered by running out of usable eggs in your ovaries. Before a baby girl is born, she can have millions of eggs in her ovaries. At birth, she may have 400,000-500,000 eggs. Most of these die; some are ovulated (released from the ovaries). So it can be true that later menarche (first period) can result in later menopause.

      My own perimenopause started at age 38, and now at 47 I'm in true menopause.

  27. QUESTION:
    I am just turned 51 years old, I am still having periods is this normal. They are very, very irregular.?
    I have had irregular periods for about two years now, hot flushes two or three a day and headaches occassionaly and tired a lot of the time. Could this be the menopause starting, shouldn't it have been finished with at about 45, please advice. I am needle phobic so a blood test is out of the question.

    • ANSWER:
      Actually in terms of age you are spot on, the average age of menopause is currently 51 years! Blood tests are often checked, but in fact when you are in the menopause, often called the peri-menopausal state, they are not too helpful anyway, and good news for you, with your needle phobia, the diagnosis is usually made clinically on history alone anyway.

      You really have given enough history such that coupled with your age I would not hesitate to make the diagnosis.

      Now what?? The duration of this peri-menopausal state is very variable, some women are lucky they almost switch off overnight, there periods stop and they have no other symptoms. You are not going to be one of these, worst scenario these symptoms can last for 5 years.

      Management is aimed at relieving symptoms. Go see your GP if they are troublesome and don't jump to discard the possibility of short term HRT, it is still the most efficient drug for dealing with the symptoms.

  28. QUESTION:
    If i start my period later in life, do i get less periods in a lifetime than a woman who starts earlier?
    Meaning if i started my period when i was 14 and my friend when she was 12, will i bleed 2 years less than her since i am closer to menopause when i start my period?

    • ANSWER:
      Depends on when you start menopause. She could start menopause 10 years earlier than you. My boyfriends mom had menopause at 40 and my mom is 50 and still hasn't gone through it.

  29. QUESTION:
    Women; at what age did you start menopause?
    When do you know that menopause has started and what symptoms do you experience?

    • ANSWER:
      There are phases to menopause. The average age for menopause is 52-1/2 years old.

      During pre-menopause a woman's periods are regular. Symptoms such as worsening PMS, periods that are heavier or lighter than normal may be associated with "peri-menopause" or the time "around" menopause. Women in their late thirties may experience these symptoms, but may not enter menopause for another ten years. Symptoms such as this can also be caused by other more serious health conditions and sudden changes should be evaluated by a physician.

      About 50% of all women have hot flashes and/or night sweats during the phases of menopause. About 10% have them in their pre-menopausal years and the percentage gradual increases as menopause approaches. Researchers refer to these symptoms as "vasomotor symptoms", because circulation and blood vessel dilation are involved. The exact cause of hot flashes and night sweats are unknown.

      It's not called menopause until you've finished having periods. What that means is that you haven't had a period in a year.

      Typical symptoms are missed periods, hot flashes, interrupted sleep or insomnia, night sweats, joint tenderness, weight gain, hair loss, dizziness/loss of balance, change in body odour, osteoporosis, etc.

      You can easily Google the information for yourself or ask your GYN/family doctor.

  30. QUESTION:
    I normally post on the religious section but I have a question, that I was going to post on the womens?
    section but find some of the things on there offensice so I will post on here. I am a 38 year old female, and I recently had a blood test to cheak my hormones for menopause and it came back and the levels showed that I was not going through menopuse. Now I just got a bit of spotting today and I woudl not even call it a proper period, and that is all I am getting. Before that I did not have a period for 2 months, and before that I had one drop of blood as my period, and before that I had a normal one and before that I did not have one for 3 months. My mother went through menopuse at 34. I have never had this happend to me in any previous years before this year. Do you think it is pre-menopuse? If it is good, becasue I do not want another normal one again, and sooner my periods go the better. Any advice for me? How long do I have to put up with this before full menopause starts? I feel like I am going through changes in my body, and am pre menopausal. So how long will this last?

    • ANSWER:
      I have not been through this myself, but I can tell you about my mother's experience. You have to be without a period for an entire year to be menopausal. It may take a couple of years of this on again/off again spotting before you stop completely. My mother would go months (just like you without a period) and then all of the sudden she'd have a regular period. That lasted about 2 years. She was about 56 yrs old when menopause finally set in. I'm 35 right now, so I guess I have about another 20-25 years of periods...ugh...can you believe it...although after all of the horror stories I've heard, I don't know if menopause is any better than having periods.

      Best wishes and God Bless!

  31. QUESTION:
    How did you deal with starting menopause? (Post menopausal women only please!)?
    I recently went to my Gyno to find out I have started my journey on menopause. I have not handled the news well. My husband said not to take it so hard because it is a natural phase in a woman's life and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I explained to him how I felt in a way a man could understand, I said "My body is slowly castrating its self. Imagine what would happen to your body if you no longer produced testosterone". HRT will never be an option for me since "female" cancers run in my family. I am not looking for the whole eat right exercise and do this to relieve hot flashes, etc. I am a retired nurse so I understand how to deal with the symptoms. I am wanting to know is how did you deal with the news. I know some women are happy when menopause starts and look forward to no longer having periods, but to me it feels like the one thing that makes me female is going away. I am getting old. and my whole life I was this ugly introvert and it wasn't just a few years ago I found myself and gained confidence. I finally feel attractive and am more extroverted. Now I have to deal with it going away. My husband and I wanted another child but now my chances are slim. I am having a rough time dealing with this.
    I am turning 41 and have 2 small children yet to raise. I just don't feel like this should be happening to me yet.

    • ANSWER:
      I guess for me it was not such a traumatic event because at about the same time i was diagnosed with a pretty severe case of hypothyroidism and so I actually began feeling much better than I had in years. And like you, I was about at retirement age when it happened And also like you I cannot take HRT for the same reason.

      One of the things I did was to begin to have some adventures. I guess some might say that I had a mid-life crisis. But it is fun. I started to do some of those things I had been interested in all my life, but never got around to doing. I learned to fly a plane. I learned to sail. I learned to lift weights. I ran a marathon. I visited the Arctic. I went to Hawaii. I went to Stonehenge. I wrote individual books for each of my grandchildren. Of course all this happened over years, but that is how I handled it. I did new things, and am still doing them. I have since lived on a sailboat for a year, lived on the road for more than a year in an RV, spent a few winters in Key West, and took my grandchildren on road trips. And I rejoiced in being a WOACA (Woman Of A Certain Age) and used it as a license to wear what I wanted and do what I wanted and be less concerned about what people thought about it. In some ways I went back to my "child of the 60s" beliefs and lifestyle in that I became much more relaxed about things. And it helps to have a husband who is open to new things.

      So I don't know exactly what your life situation is, but look at it and see what you can do with it, or what you want to do with it. This is the beginning of a new phase in your life. It is up to you to do with it what you will.

  32. QUESTION:
    How long do you have hotflashes after menopause?
    My mom started menopause a few years back and still has severe hot flashes. Her doctor doesn't want to put her on estrogen because of the increased risk of stroke. Is this normal for her to still be having hot flashes? Thanks to anyone who helps.

    • ANSWER:
      The years you have hot flashes for are actually referred to as peri-menopause. You don't hit menopause until you finish these symptoms. A women can perimenopausal for 5-10 years.

  33. QUESTION:
    Can my strange dreams be related to the start of menopause?
    I think I maybe be starting menopause. I do have an appointment with my gyno. But I have been having some really strange dreams lately. They are really effecting my sleep. I don't know why else I would be having these dreams. Has anyone else experienced this at the onset of menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      Quite possibly, yes. I find that I have very strange dreams in the couple of days before my period, so I guess maybe there is some connection between hormone levels and weird dreams! The other thing I've heard is that when your body temperature is higher than usual, you don't sleep as deeply, and so you're more likely to remember your dreams. I don't know much about the menopause, but I know one of the symptoms is hot flushes, so it could be that your night time body temperature is a little higher than usual.

      So maybe your dreams are always that weird and you don't usually remember them!

  34. QUESTION:
    Has anyone ever heard of menopause symptoms be really really bad?
    I have just started menopause or at least the part with no more periods. And for the last 8 years I have had anxiety and panic attacks. Well now that my periods are gone ( no periods in 4 months) I feel like I am going crazy. My anxiety is so bad I can't stand myself. I forget everything and the hot flashes are 6 to 8 times and day. I tried permpro and the naxiety got even worse. Can anyone help. Anyone have any advice?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes they can be bad, it depends upon the person, every one has different symptoms to menopause. Talk to your doctor, She/He will tell you what to take or they might suggest that you take hormone therapy or talk to a holistic doctor, no need to go throough this without help. Try to stay away from the caffeine it triggers the hot flashes.

  35. QUESTION:
    what happens if u dont ovulate and ur periods are lasting 2 days?
    i think i have a progesterone deficiency and my periods are only lasting 2 days but are regular. like clockwork. i get super bad PMS and have red up on progesterone deficiency, im worried coz i read it may mean u are not ovulating....will this stop me ever having children??? im 28 and am frightened the menopause is starting early!!
    but how do i now when/if i ovulate?

    • ANSWER:
      Well you should buy an ovulation predictor and see...and if you dont ovulate during your next cycle then go to the doctor.

  36. QUESTION:
    Is it possible to be starting menopause and all of the hormonal lab work turn out negative?
    My mom is 49 years old and has been having sudden anxiety/depression. She describes what sounds to be like a hot flash combined with sudden anxiety and panic. She went to the MD and was tested for elevated estrogen/progesterone/luteinizing hormone, but all were within normal limits. IS it possible to be starting menopause without having elevated hormones?

    • ANSWER:
      Yes that is precisely what happened to me - my results looked fine. The blood tests give normal results based on the average person. However each individual has different hormonal requirements. My specialist put me on a very small dose of estradiol, progesterone and testosterone and my symptoms vanished.

  37. QUESTION:
    If I start my period early does it mean I start Menopause early too?
    I started puberty way earlier than my friends did. While they didn't grow boobs until 13, I had my period at 10 years old. For awhile I felt much more mature not only physically but mentally too.

    In high school, it suddenly hit me. I constantly asked that question to some of my friends. Some said yes, others said no.

    So would starting my period early mean I will start menopause early?

    • ANSWER:
      No. Certainly not. Starting your period early does not mean you'll start menopause early.

  38. QUESTION:
    I heard that women start menopause 31 years after they have their first cycle. Is that true?
    My mom had menopause at the age of 41-i was wondering if by chance that would happen to me. Could i follow in my mother's foot steps?

    • ANSWER:
      in general genetics is very important in reproductive system - read about it below - but 31 years after first period is not correct - read about menopause below

  39. QUESTION:
    What natural remedy can I take for hot flushes?
    I have reluctantly given in to the menopause and have started to get hot flushes (though I tell other women I don't get them). Can any of you ladies recommed a tried a tested natural remedy or do I have to go to my GP.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi Sue, regular physical exercise is necessary to protect against bone loss. Exercise has many other benefits as well.

      A diet that is low in saturated fats and cholesterol and high in complex carbohydrates, such as grains, fruits and vegetables is important.2

      Vitamin E supplementation may reduce symptoms such as hot flashes, night sweats, dizziness, palpitations, fatigue, and breathing difficulties.,,

      Calcium is important in maintaining bone mass.

      Magnesium intake is often low in women with osteoporosis. Low magnesium intake is associated with low bone mineral content (BMC).

      Vitamin D enhances calcium absorption.

      Boron reduces urinary calcium loss and increases serum levels of 17 estradiol (estrogen).

      Essential fatty acids can help prevent dryness of the hair, skin and vaginal tissues.

      Soy supplementation has been suggested as a possible alternative to hormone replacement therapy. Soy isoflavones act as estrogen-like compounds. Forty-five grams of dietary soy, per day for 12 weeks was shown to decrease post-menopausal hot flashes.

      Certain herbs such as black cohosh, chasteberry, licorice and dong quai have shown to have a beneficial effect in managing many of the menopause symptoms.
      Jason Homan

  40. QUESTION:
    When do women generally start menopause and how long does it last?
    I'm in my early 40's and was wondering when I should be concerned about menopause. I've been very moody lately and just don't feel like myself...could this be pre-menopause? What are some of the symptoms emotional and physical that accompany menopause? How long does menopause last?

    • ANSWER:
      50 to death

  41. QUESTION:
    can you get sick from using progesterone cream?
    I am going through menopause and started using the cream a week ago and have been sick ever since.

    • ANSWER:
      Hiya :)

      This site may be of some help, I'm sorry I don't quite know how you're feeling or anything so I can't go into depth on the wrong thing and freak you completely out:
      http://heartspring.net/progesterone_cream.html

      Dr. Lee seems to be very talented in this area, so this link to the cream your using is on his website:
      http://www.johnleemd.com/store/faqs_progest_crm.html

      Hope it helps!
      If not contact your doc!
      :)

  42. QUESTION:
    Asking for a friend, is 42 an age where a woman might be starting menopause?
    My friend/co-worker is forty-two and she mentioned her period being late and a possibility she could be pregnant. I'm wondering if that's the most likely explanation or could she just be starting menopause. I know these things typically are hereditary but her mom died when she was in high school so no clues there.

    Speculation welcome.

    • ANSWER:
      Well I went thru it at age 37!! So it may be the beginning of menopause. Or it could be stress related. If she keeps missing periods and has other symptoms like hot flashes, sweating like night sweats mood swings. It could be early menopause. Good Luck. :)

  43. QUESTION:
    Can beginning menopause bring on a need to drink a lot of water?
    I've been dizzy and nauseous for 6 weeks, finally figured out that I was dehydrated. Now I'm drinking about 2 cups an hour and my mouth is still dry. I'm just starting menopause - have not had a cycle for 2 months. No symptoms so far - no hot flashes or anything. Is dehydration a symptom?

    • ANSWER:
      The most serious possibility is diabetes. A symptom of diabetes is extreme thirst. If you were just dehydrated, then you'd drink a lot for a matter of a few hours, then you'd be all caught up and not need to keep drinking a lot. Since you need to keep drinking, it sounds to me like a problem. That could also explain why you're nauseous and dizzy. Go to a doctor.

  44. QUESTION:
    What is the youngest age that you can start to go through menpause??
    I am just wondering what ages some woman have gone through menopause....The reason that I ask is I am afraid that I am going through menopause and I am not that old...And no I am not going to tell you how old I am I just want some insight on the whole thing mainly from woman that have already gone through menopause please let me know any info would be greatly appreciated.. And thanks is advance.

    • ANSWER:
      Early menopause is possible, but today with the advancement in nutrition, most women are not hitting it until their mid 50s. You can request that your GYN run hormonal tests, and your question will be answered.

  45. QUESTION:
    Why do women get menopause and become infertile but men don't and stay fertile all their lives evolution wise?
    Why do infertile post menopause women live longer than fertile men isn't that contradictory to evaluation?
    Men are fertile all their lives but women are not.Once you can't reproduce you are useless to evaluation because you can't pass on your species.Reproducing increases our survival from going extinct.Men in their 90s can make babies but women can't.The majority of the worlds oldest people are women and women's life expectancy is 2-5 years more than men in a lot of country.What is the point of living longer if you can't pass on your species?

    • ANSWER:
      An older person has two potential evolutionary strategies for getting more genes into subsequent generations: 1) keep producing children, despite increasing difficulties in providing for them and increasing likelihood of deleterious mutations; or 2) help his or her grown children raise their offspring. A person could put all his or her resources into option 1, all into option 2, or split the resources between the options.

      Women typically invest more resources into caring directly for children than men do. One reason for this is that they start out putting more resources into individual children, simply by virtue of producing large eggs instead of small sperm, going through menstral cycles and pregnancy, and producing milk. Another reason is that the upper limit of children women can produce with willing partners is much less than the upper limit for men. This means that effort invested into gaining social power or resources will likely have a smaller payoff in terms of number of children than it would for men. This wouldn’t be true in completely monogamous societies, but through most of humans evolutionary history we have been polygamous. Even in modern day first world countries, men are more likely to remarry and produce new families than women are, so by that measure (higher variance in number of offspring in men compared to women) we are still polygynous.

      So given that dichotomy, women tend to put their efforts directly into child-rearing, whereas men (when they stick around) put their efforts into actions that can assist the offspring in less direct ways, such as providing resources and defense. That’s just on average – it doesn’t mean individual people need to follow that arrangement, or that such an arrangement is somehow more “moral” or “natural”.

      So now look at the 2 choices an older person has regarding offspring, and consider how that’s going to work best for men and women on average, given where each tend to put their resources. Women, who tend to provide direct childcare, are going to find it much more difficult than men to effectively put effort towards raising both their own children and their grandchildren. The benefits men provide – of resources and protection – are fairly easily divided up among whoever happens to be in the household, whether it be children or grandchildren. But the benefits women provide – of direct childcare – typically have to be doled out to one child at a time, with a fairly low limit on the number of children that can be raised at any one time. So while men can fairly easily split their resources between the two options, and in fact benefit from a certain amount of economies of scale when there are both children and grandchildren, women tend to have to go with either focusing on option 1 (children) or option 2 (grandchildren).

      At some point, the accumulation of bodily wear and tear, of mutational changes to eggs, and of lack of grandmotherly care for the children of later-born offspring, causes option 2 to result in more descendants than option 1. In the past, women who went through menopause at about that point did in fact produce more descendants, thereby causing the proportionate representation of menopause to increase in subsequent generations until it became the norm.

  46. QUESTION:
    Can anyone help me with my delema?
    My husband and I our newly weds about 8 months we were together for 6 years before that, but we are young early to mid 20's. we both agree we want children, but I'm not sure if I'm to young, or could even be a good mom. Menopause starts early in my family and I'm afraid of pushing the time clock. Is it also a little to much to want to have children now so that my grandparents can enjoy their grandchildren before they pass on?? If anyone could give me a little advise both our moms are ready to be grandmoms, so they are no help. There is one twist though my mother lives with me and she is a smoker, not planning to quit and to lazy to move it outside, I don't have the heart to give her the boot, & she may not be able to handle life on her own for another year. Any advice if I should wait on my family, or go ahead and try to have one. I really feel I'm ready just a little scared.

    • ANSWER:
      My advise?

      8 months? very newly weds.
      Give your marriage some time.
      Give your dreams time to develop.
      Have a child when you and your husband want to have a child.
      Not when Grandma's want you too.

      Don't let anyone rush you into anything....Please.

      I don't mean to ask a silly question as I don't have the details...

      but....what the heck is "Mom" doing living with 'newlyweds'?

      Your house....you make the rules.
      Might be a good way of getting her to move....
      "Mom, we are thinking about starting a family but we can't with you living here and your smoking. It might be best if you find yourself someplace to stay so we can get on with our life." [someplace close would be nice so she can visit grandchild.....whenever....YOU decide to have one.]

  47. QUESTION:
    Dear Senior Ladies, can you recommend natural but effective ways to help with menopause symptoms?
    I look forward to your answers. I am having a tough time with all the menopause symptoms (except I do no have the 'hot flashes' everybody talks about).
    I am eating right, exercising and trying to get a good night's sleep.
    Bless you for your help, I will really appreciate it.

    • ANSWER:
      I did not take HRT. I was having awful night sweats and some pretty bad hot flashes. Someone told me that soy would help. So I started drinking Silk soy milk (chocolate, of course.) It helped so much I wish I would have tried it sooner. You have to find the right amount for you. I was drinking 2 or 3 glasses a day. That really cut down on those symptoms. Good luck!

      I've heard that HRT gives you a 60% greater chance of getting breast cancer. Not worth it to me.

  48. QUESTION:
    Why would I suddenly start spotting before my period?
    I'm regular like clockwork, no where near menopause, age 38, and for the first time spotted 2 days before my period. Can you please provide a detailed answer as to why this is happening suddenly?

    Thanks!
    PS: I am not pregnant, have zero STDs, infections, or diseases.

    • ANSWER:
      Hi there,

      It's very frustrating when your period doesn't act like its normal self.
      Try this web site: http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/sym/spotting.htm

      For some women it's normal to spot before their period. But if it normally doesn't happen, then suddenly does, I can understand your concern.

      There's even a symtom combination checker for you here: http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/symptoms/spotting/symptom-search.htm

      Possible causes are:
      Medication
      Stress
      You're sure you're not PG?
      Changes in hormones - it's possible for them to change.

      See if it happens again, and maybe mention it in your next appt.

  49. QUESTION:
    Do I need a D and C to get rid of ovarian cyst?
    I am 44 years old. Have not gone thru menopause yet. Started having painful and irregular periods. Had an vaginal ultrasound and diagnosed with ovarian cyst. In doing some research online, I don't see where D and C is a normal procedure for an ovarian cyst. Is this type of procedure necessary? (I have not had a miscarriage)

    • ANSWER:
      A D&C removes the uterine lining. An ovarian cyst is on the ovaries. These are different body parts and a D&C cannot affect an ovarian cyst. A D&C is done sometimes when a woman has irregular bleeding, though, not just when there's a miscarriage.

  50. QUESTION:
    What are the symptoms for menopause?
    What are all the symptoms for menopause?
    How old are you when you normally reach it?
    Can you be in your 30s and get menopause?

    • ANSWER:
      My period started coming less and less starting in my 40's. It was a pain because I basically wore a pad every day because I never knew if my period was coming or not. I'm 50 now and haven't had a period in 2 years. Luckily the only symptoms I've had are severe mood swings. My gynecologist gave me sarafem (antidepressant) for that. I hope this is all I get!! I think 30 is pretty young. Talk to your doctor. Good Luck


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